Adoption Information

2011/06/19 in Health, Relationships

We’re glad you called the Teen Line for information on adoption as an alternative to an unplanned pregnancy. We assume you have already had a pregnancy test, and know for sure that you’re pregnant. If you are not sure, please call our tape. “Am I Pregnant?” for more information on pregnancy tests.

 

Many loving parents choose adoption when they feel that they cannot provide a secure family life for their child or meet their babies needs. If you decide that adoption is the best plan for you and your baby, you may decide to place your baby though an adoption agency or a private attorney.

Here are the types of adoption plans that you can choose from. One adoption plan is the traditional adoption in which the agency makes the selection of the adoptive parents from approved adoptive homes. Another type is a semi-traditional adoption in which you select the adoptive parents from profiles that the agency provides. Still another plan the is the semi-open adoption in which you would meet the adoptive parents at the agency to share information such as first names, family history and ways to continue contact with the agency as the go between you and the adoptive family. Last names and addresses are not shared in this type of adoption. Finally, there is the open adoption plan. If you choose this option, you would meet the adoptive parents and exchange all identifying information. You may meet several times prior to the birth of your baby and may decide with the adoptive parents to continue your relationship with them and your child directly wither through sharing letters, pictures and gifts or by visiting each other. In an open adoption, the adoptive family could be unknown to you at first or they could be relatives or people you know.

If you decide to get help with your adoption plan from an agency, you will meet with a social worker to discuss your plans. Your social worker will provide you with all the information and support you will need to make the best decision for you and your baby. If the father of the baby and/or your family is involved, the social worker will provide help and assistance to them as well. Your social worker will meet with you throughout your pregnancy, during the placement and after the placement of your child. The social worker will tell you what your rights are and help you work out any agreements you might want to make with the adoptive parents. If you should change your mind at any point prior to actually signing the legal papers, the social worker will continue to provide counseling, support and help you explore your other options.

If you decide to place your child through an attorney, they may or may not provide counseling and support services. If you feel that you need help with your decision, it would be important to find out what services the attorney offers before deciding which attorney to work with.

 In some situations, the birthparents may want to change their minds about their plans to place their child for adoption or they may need more time to make sure their decision is the right one for them. If this should happen to you, remember that it is okay and within your rights to change your mind or to take more time to think about your decision, as long as you haven’t signed any legal documents. Remember, this is one of the most important decisions that you will make in your life and it is important to be sure that it is right for you and your baby.

In conclusion, we’d like to say that many young women who are facing an unwanted or unexpected pregnancy feel very much alone and confused by all the problems that pregnancy brings. Trying to cope is not something you should have to do alone. We have discussed the various adoption options and some of the legal requirements necessary to complete an adoption plan. Remember that adoption is a loving alternative which many young parents choose when they cannot meet the needs of their child and want a secure family life for their baby.

Thank you.

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