Get More Out Of Life

Do you feel like things never turn out the way you want? Are you always just missing a deadline or an opportunity? Do you have a special goal but aren’t sure how to reach it? Or, are you just too unsure of yourself to even try?


Perhaps you feel a lot of confusion about what you want to do with your life and where to put your time and energy.

Some things that happen to people are luck or being in the right place at the right time, but most of the good things that happen are because of hard work, motivation and planning.

This tape will help you figure Out what it is you want in your life and how to work for what you want to achieve within the next few years, as well as help you plan for where you want to be in 5 or 10 years.

One of the things that makes it difficult for you to set goals is the confusion you may feel about what is important in your life.

Some of the things you may want for yourself could seem like a far out dream to you. Maybe you do have far out dreams, but it is also very possible that if you can look at your dreams in a different way, you may be able to accomplish them.

Setting goals and planning sometimes sounds real hard but actually we do it all the time. For example, if you want to go to a rock concert you have to plan ahead and first find out when, and where the concert is and where you can get the tickets. You then need to check with your parents, order the tickets, pick them up and have the money to pay for them. You also need to arrange for transportation and decide what clothes you want to wear. Taking each step, one at a time, gets you to the concert. This is only one example of lots of things that you planned and carried out in your life. Whether your goal is a small one or a great big one, a long term one or a short term one, remember that you have a much better chance of achieving what you want if you break your goal down into simple steps. For example, if you think you want to go on for some other kind of education after high school, you will need to do a lot of planning Perhaps the hardest part is figuring out what kind of education you want. If you know that, then you need to look at what courses you should take while still in high school, find Out where the best schools are, what it’s going to cost, how you’ll pay the fees, and where you’ll live. Before you can make decisions about some of this, you may need more information, and some of the answers you may already have. Some are more than a gathering of information but involve spending a lot of time and energy over a long period — such as having a certain grade point to get into some schools. Don’t be overwhelmed by the tasks. Because, if you break them down into specific steps, they will be much easier to handle. For example, if you need to figure out what kind of further education you want, one step is to make an appointment to see your guidance counselor at school. Your counselor can give you some of the answers to your questions or can tell you where to get the answers. Also talk to your parents, teachers, friends, relatives, so you can get as much information as possible before you make career decisions. There are always some unknowns, and except for a few things, most decisions you make will not be lifelong ones.

Sometimes, in order to get more of what you want in life, it is necessary to do things that may be somewhat scary or uncomfortable. That is really the only way to test your own strength and ability. Reach beyond what you thought you could. Stretching yourself to your fullest may well involve giving up something else — for example, if you are to participate in some kind of music contest or sports event on Saturday morning, you may have to give up a Friday night date or party, don’t hold back — give 100%. Face setbacks with a positive attitude and do what you can to correct things and keep going!

We have talked about the need to plan in order to get what you want in life. Also remember to break those goals down into simple or easily understood tasks so you will be able to attain them. If something is important to you, give it your all so you will be able to stretch your limits and capacity. Go for it!


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