Bully at School

2012/09/19 in Ask Marlena

Dear Marlena,

I am at a new school and a bully is picking on me. I don’t know anyone at this school and don’t have very many friends that can stand up for me. Should I fight back?




Dear Jet,

Thank you for writing and sharing your concern. This is a subject that many youth face every day both in and out of school. Bullying is when a person is picked on over and over again by an individual or group with more power, either in terms of physical strength or social standing. There is no easy answer to this question but standing up to bullies doesn’t mean you have to have a physical fight with them. It could result in many things getting out of control, putting everyone in danger. In fact, most of the time, you don’t have to fight. There are almost always more effective ways to deal with bullies, ways that are better for you. You may be getting pressure from your friends to fight or think that fighting back will teach the bully a lesson or could be the best way out, but that’s never a good reason to fight. There are better ways to take action, please talk to an adult or your teacher about the situation so you aren’t going through this alone. The school has set up a confidential bullying, fighting, and crime hotline at 754-321-0911 and a Confidential text messaging at service –SBBC[space] and message to CRIMES (274637). You can contact 2-1-1 if you want to talk about what to do too. They are there 24/7 to talk and can offer help. More info can be found at: http://www.broward.k12.fl.us/siu/tips/studenttips.asp